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The Dominion of the Husband
If you’ve ever read the Genesis account of creation, it’s no secret that God created the man first. God created man in His own image. (See Genesis 1:26-27) After God had created the heavens and the earth and all that was above and here below, God gave to the first man – Adam – dominion over all that was on the earth and he was subject to nothing else but God. Man’s authority then is God alone. Following the creation of the man, God created woman to be a helpmeet for man. She is called woman because she was taken out of man. The day she was created, she became his wife. (See Genesis 2:21-24)
Read the following Scriptures: (all italics are my emphasis unless otherwise stated)
21) Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of the body.
24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it;
26) That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27) That He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30) For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.
31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (cf: Gen 2:24)
32) This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.” (cf: I Peter 3:2)
Ephesians 5:21-33 KJV
Responsibility Through Authority
Wow. What responsibility. I believe that the responsibility placed on the man is due to his position of authority placed upon him by God in the beginning. He was created in the image of God, subject only to God. In the spiritual order: God, the husband, the wife and then their children. All else is outside that. God gave the husband headship over his wife. The husband’s headship is to model that of Christ Who is the head of the church. The proper way to model Christ’s relationship to the church in his (the husband’s) family is to have a personal relationship with his Savior, Jesus Christ.
In the husband and wife relationship, the husband is commanded to love his wife as Christ loves his church. He is also commanded to give of himself to his wife as Christ gave of Himself for the church. Because Christ gave Himself for His church – which is His body – the husband is also to have that same selfless and sacrificial love for his wife because she is his body. Verse 31 says: “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” (See also Genesis 2:24) God says because the husband and wife are joined together, that makes them one flesh. Though they are two individual human beings, through a miracle of God’s Spirit, they are in effect spiritually joined as one body.
What husband would not care for his own human flesh? Certainly he feeds it, clothes it and cares to make sure it stays healthy and flourishes for longevity. Spiritually speaking, because his wife has become his own body through that miracle of the one-flesh covenant, the husband is to nourish and care for his body – his wife. She is a reflection of his body and spirit. Husband, if your wife is not looking too good right now — rather, if she is not flourishing radiant in your Marriage, then you need to take a good look in the mirror. Are you who you would want your wife to be?
The husband is commanded to love as Christ loved. That is an awesome responsibility but it’s because of that authority God gave you as head of the household that you have this role. It is your responsibility to see that this sacred and loving relationship works in accordance to the commands of your Father. If it is not, then it’s your God-given responsibility as head of your home and as a spiritual covering of your wife to find out why and work to restore what is out of balance. But you do this through the power of your relationship with Jesus Christ. Your authority in the home is not to be abused. Though your wife is in submission to your God-ordained position of authority in the home, she is still your equal. Why? Because you are both joint heirs with Christ! Not only are you one in flesh as husband and wife and not only are you one with Christ individually — you are one as brother and sister IN Christ because you are His Body!
Are Your Prayers Being Answered?
7In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]
1 Peter 3:7 AMP
Gentlemen, there is a direct correlation between the way you treat your wife and how God answers your prayers – or not. Understand that God is watching how you use His God-given authority when you manage your household. If you are misusing your position of authority, have no spiritual headship or are abusing and twisting your spiritual authority, you are outside the will of God and are under His judgment (paying the consequences of actions and misdeeds) until you confess and repent seeking right relationship with Him – and then your wife.
Know this: God will not hear you speak in prayer to Him or bless you. The only prayer He will hear from your heart at that time is the one of confession and repentance seeking His forgiveness. Spiritual pride is the opposite of humility in the character of a confessing Christian.
The wife of your youth is your covenant partner, your body and a joint heir to the Throne of Grace with you. IF you are mistreating or harming that relationship with your wife you are abusing your God-ordained position of authority; harming your relationship with God (and your wife); and you are abusing and neglecting your very own body (because she is your body). What man hates his own flesh that he wouldn’t care for it? (See verse 29 above)
The Voice of God Calling…
If you’re sensing something in your spirit with regard to what is written here, God is speaking to your heart at this moment. He is calling your attention to something you need to attend to with His help seeking Him through prayer and reflection. God is faithful. As long as you’re seeking Him and listening for His voice, He will show you the way.
Know this: Ignoring the Voice of God brings serious consequences with it. If you are truly His child determined to live your life in the flesh following after your own will, way and desires (which is contrary to living life in the Spirit), He will only allow you to go so far before He jerks you back up by the scruff of the neck to get your attention. In my own personal life, I used to refer to those incidents as the School of Hard Knocks with lessons learned. You may smile and nod your head in knowing agreement but God is very clear on this. God calls it Rebellion and He will not tolerate it.
Rebellion is defined thus: 1) an organized attempt to overthrow a government or other authority by the use of violence; and 2) defiance of authority; opposition to or defiance of authority, accepted moral codes or social conventions. A thesaurus uses these synonyms: revolt, uprising, insurgence, upheaval, mutiny… etc.
Gentlemen, if you are not listening to the Voice of your God and knowingly, willingly refuse to heed, you are in outright rebellion against God. No one else may ever know what you’re doing but God is watching you. He can see everything you do and He knows your thoughts and intentions before they ever happen.
(By the way, this goes for the wives too…)
Remember, God calls us to submit to each other because we admire, worship, look up to and respect Jesus Christ! So then it is a two-way street with regard to submission BUT it is always done as unto the Lord… And, again, it is done in order.
…and first and foremost as always, your very loving responsibility as spiritual head of the household is to hold true to your calling as unto the Lord.
What an awesome responsibility and blessing God has given you.
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