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Opposites Don’t Attract
We’ve all heard the saying “Opposites attract.” But in the case of the Christian Man and Woman there is one major opposite that shouldn’t attract them – being unequally yoked to Belial.
14Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness?
15What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial [the devil]? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?
16What agreement [can there be between] a temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God; even as God said, I will dwell in and with and among them and will walk in and with and among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.
17So, come out from among [unbelievers], and separate (sever) yourselves from them, says the Lord, and touch not [any] unclean thing; then I will receive you kindly and treat you with favor,
(II Corinthians 6:14-17 AMP)
Before I continue, let me just say that the Scriptures above have absolutely nothing to do with justifying divorce! They do not give you permission to walk away from a Marriage if there is an unbelieving spouse – at all, ever. What it does do with regard to Marriage is tell you that you should be looking for a mate who is of the same faith BEFORE you get Married the FIRST time because once you are Married, you are Married for life. Once you are legally divorced through the man-made courts of man, you are still Married for life — until death.
13And if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he consents to live with her, she should not leave or divorce him.
14For the unbelieving husband is set apart (separated, withdrawn from heathen contamination, and affiliated with the Christian people) by union with his consecrated (set-apart) wife, and the unbelieving wife is set apart and separated through union with her consecrated husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean (unblessed heathen, outside the Christian covenant), but as it is they are prepared for God [pure and clean].
(I Corinthians 7:13-14 AMP)
Second Corinthians 6 at the top has to do with who we associate with as believers. We are not to live inconsistent with our faith. We are to live out our conviction through faith and as though we have already attained the glory of perfection. As born-again saved believers, we are called to a higher standard. We are called to a life of holiness. God says be holy because I am holy! First Peter 1, Chapter 16 says:
14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance.
15 But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do;
16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
No doubt we are called to be different. No doubt we are called to order our lives aright in accordance with the living Word of God. But the fact of the matter is we struggle because we are still of the flesh and in the flesh. Even the apostle Paul struggled with his flesh. However, he did not use his struggles as an excuse to willingly commit and/or continue in the sins he committed. On the contrary. Because of Paul’s reverence for his God – my God, your God – it drove him closer to God. In Romans 7:7-25, Paul records his intense spiritual battle and he sums it up saying:
21So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. 24What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in the sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.
Opposites clearly shouldn’t always attract….
If you are Married or divorced (apart from God’s ordinances), who are you spending your time with? What are you doing or where are you going? What are you looking at or how are you speaking? Are the thoughts and meditations of your heart on what is good, lovely, pure, honorable and of good report? Or are you meditating on Hustler, Playboy – maybe some online porn and dating sites. Are you spending your time thinking about the man or woman in the office or the grocery store or the bar downtown – instead of thinking about your Covenant mate? The list really can go on an on. My point is this: what you allow your mind to focus on is who you become. What you speak is what’s in your heart. What you do is who you are. You are known by the fruits of your actions – or inaction in some cases. When you allow your mind unguarded exposure to the opposite of what you’re supposed to be focused on, you’re headed the wrong way down a one-way road. Unless you turn around and go back the way you came, you’re going to have a head-on collision.
7Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. (Galatians 6:7 NIV)
Another of God’s universal laws and moral absolutes — you will in fact be subject to the law of your harvest.
Know this: Sow a thought, reap an action. Sow an action, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny…The seed you sow determines the harvest you will reap.
The Great Counterfeit
I hope you’re starting to get an idea about where this is going. The opposite of good is evil and the opposite of that which is real, valid and authentic is counterfeit. We know that we shouldn’t be dabbling in the dark. If we didn’t, then we wouldn’t be trying to hide the things we do that are wrong. Strongholds make for intense spiritual battles…
Synonyms for the word counterfeit: fake; forged; phony; bogus; imitation; sham.
The definition of counterfeit: to make realistic copies of something in order to deceive and defraud.
Think about the spiritual implications of that! We know that satan masquerades as an angel of light (II Corinthians 11:14) and that he is a liar and the father of lies; a murderer from the beginning not holding to the truth (John 8:44).
QUESTION: If we are not meditating day and night on the Word of God, how can we know when we’re being deceived?? Chances are pretty good that you won’t really know until you’re right smack in the middle of something that you don’t know how you got into – or how to get out of. It happens to all of us to varying degrees. It goes without saying that it shouldn’t happen — but I’ll say it: It shouldn’t! But because we know it’s likely that satan prowls around like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour, don’t you think we should stay close to God? We are warned in I Peter 5:8 — “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (NIV)
Take a look at the following table for examples of Real vs Counterfeit.
|Marriage||Divorce / Remarriage|
|Marriage between one Man and one Woman||“Marriage” between two men or two women|
|Sexual Intimacy||Sexual Lust; Porn|
|Sex between Mates||Sex with multiple partners w/o attachment: fornication; adultery; swinging|
|Serving Your Mate in Loving Deferment||Serving Yourself for Yourself|
Really. You get the idea… Whatever God has ordained, spoken and created, the devil has created an opposite and a counterfeit. The devil will ALWAYS put just enough truth in the lie to make it believable. If he didn’t, a Christian individual wouldn’t and couldn’t be deceived. Why does the devil put so much focus on the Child of God? Because he can make them ineffective for the Kingdom of God. If the devil can make a Christian absolutely miserable, who would want to be one? The statistics are phenomenal on that very subject. Most non-Christian people do NOT see a difference between a Christian and a non-Christian so why be one! The devil doesn’t have to go to the local bar on the corner and torment to destruction those people because most all of them are already “on his side.” (God says if you’re not for Him, you’re against Him.)
Another reason the devil creates counterfeits: The devil can destroy a Covenant Marriage as a personal and spiritual attack on a family. He defines your weaknesses and goes for the throat… By destroying a Marriage, you destroy lives, morals, laws, values, families, spirits and souls. Once the lie is in place and the morals and values of homes are destroyed, families and churches and communities are destroyed. I know this. I’ve seen it. I’ve lived it. But I refuse to be it any longer. By the loving mercy of my God, a new day will dawn upon my Marriage and my family. He has ordained it to be so. All it takes is one to Stand in the gap. That’s me.
The devil is going to spend his time this side of the abyss messing with the church… It’s just what he does.
Walking in the Light
5This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.
6If we claim to have fellowship with him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth.
7But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
8If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.
9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
10If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives.
(I John 1:5-7 NIV)
If you’re sitting here thinking you haven’t done anything wrong and you’re confessing Christ but you continue to walk in darkness, the above says it pretty clear. Pride is a nasty beast and will continue to keep us in the dark as long as we want to be there. It is the pride of the human flesh that says “I haven’t done anything wrong!” God says if you’re saying that, you’re living in deceit and darkness and that you are a liar and the truth is not in you. That’s a pretty serious indictment from the Word of God.
If this is the opposite extreme of your life, there is always a way back into the Light. Confess and repent (turn away from; turn around and go back) trusting in His faithfulness to cleanse you from all unrighteousness. He alone is faithful and true because He cannot lie.
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