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Quick thoughts — but you must know, see and understand the parallels that are presented below (also in the Bible)…
Let’s take a quick look —
Israel is God’s chosen people. Israel is God’s Bride. We know this in part because God issued Israel what is known as a “SPIRITUAL bill of divorcement” for her SPIRITUAL harlotries committed against God. Harlotries are also known as adulteries. God’s chosen were a wicked nation. They worshipped idols and sacrificed their own children to gods made with human hands. It really doesn’t get much more serious than that. If God is able to graft them back in and restore them to their rightful place unto Him — and He will — how then can it be said that adultery is the end of a Covenant relationship — whether spiritual or physical?
Reference the Book of Hosea. The first part of the book is a biblical account of Hosea and his earthly marriage, and his life as being a living and real-time prophecy of Israel. In other words, his own earthly marriage was a parallel of Israel’s spiritual marriage to her Husband, God. We know that God told Hosea to marry a woman of harlotries who followed after her own lusts that lead her to many, many lovers; however, it was not her unfaithfulness that was the focal point but rather it was her restoration that is key!! No matter her harlotries, God told Hosea to continue to love his wife and take her back! That is a symbolic parallel of God’s love for his chosen people Israel. And it is what is expected of the husband-wife marriage in the New Testament era. Despite God’s condemnation and the harshness of language with which the unavoidable judgment was announced, the major purpose of the Book of Hosea is to proclaim God’s compassion and Covenant love that cannot and will not let His Bride Israel go.
Ephesians 5:31-32 says marriage emulates the salvation of the Church, which we know is an unbreakable Covenant relationship. When one commits physical (and spiritual) harlotries against their spouse — how is it that the Marriage Covenant relationship can be broken? Do you not know the Church is Christ’s Bride? We are the saved and the True Bride of Christ. He has no other Bride and He will not marry or RE-marry another or He Himself would be guilty of committing a spiritual adultery against His COVENANT Bride. Christ is the Groom. We are His Bride.
In the Old Testament – adultery was punishable by death. In the New Testament – adultery is forgiven. Reference the woman caught in the act of adultery and brought before the masses to be stoned to death in accordance with their religious law. Jesus Himself forgave her and set her free. Reference Matthew 12:31-32 KJV (emphasis mine):
31 Wherefore I say unto you, ALL MANNER OF SIN and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.
32 And whosoever speaketh a word against the Son of man, it shall be forgiven him: but whosoever speaketh against the Holy Ghost, it shall not be forgiven him, neither in this world, neither in the world to come.
While serious enough in its very nature, adultery is NOT the unforgiveable and unpardonable sin… However, it is indicative of an underlying spiritual problem.
Another point: We know that adultery is not only a physical harlotry but that it is also a spiritual harlotry. The one-flesh union between husband and wife is a very mystical spiritual union. While they are two very separate individuals, when they marry and consummate that union, they become one flesh – one in body and spirit. In the act of adultery, one takes their oneness with their spouse — which is also their oneness with their Husband Christ — and join it together in a counterfeit spiritual union with another one who is foreign to that oneness between husband and wife — and Christ who is one with both the husband and wife.
Are you legally divorced according to the law of man and looking for other men or women with which to sow your wild oats because you think you’re “single?” Are you legally divorced according to the law of man and looking for another spouse? In BOTH cases, you are actively seeking to commit physical AND spiritual harlotry — against your one-flesh COVENANT spouse and your God Whom you are one with… However, and even then, it still doesn’t break your Covenant relationship with Christ – and it doesn’t break your Covenant relationship with your one-flesh COVENANT spouse. Are you legally divorced according to the law of man, REmarried to someone other than the COVENANT mate of your youth? Then according to the irrevocable Word of God, you are an adulterer. You are guilty of a perpetual sin. Why would it be called a perpetual sin? A Christian does not ask God to forgive their sin and then continue in it. This particular situation needs to be dealt with on a personal, physical and spiritual level and with sensitivity to the leading of the Holy Spirit. God says that adulterers will not enter into the Kingdom. If you say you are a Christian and you do this regardless of what the Word of God says, then I would definitely examine who I am before God… God’s Word supercedes the laws of man. Every single time…
(If you’re having a hard time wrapping your mind around the serious implications of man’s law with regard to divorce and remarriage as I did – and even still do — understand that it is God that will help you grasp HIS precepts and help you walk in them. But also understand that if you choose not to, you will have to stand in answer to HIM. Study His Word. See what HE says — but make sure you are looking at a complete and true version of His Word. I did not have that and it does make a difference as there are so very many washed down versions of the Word of God. I can see how they mislead. It happened to me in addition to having very bad (but well-meaning) Christian counsel. The counsel I received left no room for the power of God — and it left a host of sins to be repented of. It destroyed a marriage and tore apart a family… Even in the wake of destruction, there IS AN ANSWER! There IS A WAY OUT of the evil captivity that the devil holds us under at times – NO MATTER the problem. Jesus Christ IS YOUR ANSWER!)
But is adultery only physical and spiritual? The Bible says that if a man even so much as looks at a woman who is NOT his wife with lust in his heart, he HAS committed adultery with her in his heart. He didn’t even have to touch her… But God said he did. It’s not just a physical act but it’s the same as the physical act! It starts in a mind left unguarded and exposed to what seems to be a “harmless” sin — a mind that hasn’t been walking closely to their heavenly Spouse. Even so, it still does not break the one-flesh Covenant. Women take note: this is also true for us.
How many times have we, who belong to Christ and are one with Him, looked at “another.” The longings of the fleshly and carnal mind that makes us lust after things that are not of God — the things that take us away from having a close relationship with Him. For example, our material idols like our houses and cars. How about our jobs? Maybe our habits. How about the secret things of darkness like running with a crowd you know has nothing to do with God; people that you know are involved in some very serious deeds of darkness? People who have one foot inside the door of the point of no return…
Disloyalty to God on ANY level is spiritual adultery — and is no different than what God’s beloved bride Israel did when they worshipped the Baal’s and sacrificed their children on the pagan high places and had pagan sex orgies in the temple with the temple prostitutes.
Folks, if what you are doing is NOT borne of the fruit of the Spirit, then it’s a SPIRITUAL harlotry that manifests itself in a very real PHYSICAL nature. You have just committed adultery against your God! You were unfaithful to Him as a bride or groom is to their earthly spouse… God says “He that is not with Me is against Me. . . .” (Matthew 12:30 KJV) I don’t care what we have done within the realm of earthly marriage relationships to hurt each other, there is NOTHING that we can do to each other and judge each other for that we ourselves would not be guilty of before God… God said if we’ve broken even one of the ten commandments, we are guilty — GUILTY — of breaking them all… How so? Hatred is as the sin of murder. Pride is as the sin of witchcraft. Stubbornness is as the sin of idolatry. Who of us hasn’t hated or let our pride get out of control? That’s a pretty stiff indictment… It’s also the reason our marriages and homes are in shambles.
We say we are a Christians. Surely because we abide by the laws and work hard to mind our own business we’ve hurt nothing and nobody. Here’s a news flash: That line of thought is a “works-based doctrine” and will NOT save you. Christianity isn’t a feel-good religion that lives and lets live. Christianity isn’t the religion that lets you pick and choose according to the precepts of the Bible that you think are good and fit for you to live by. Some of us honestly think because we say the name of Jesus or God on occasion that we are a Christian or spiritual beings! GOD calls us to holiness. Holiness? Holiness is a way of life. It sets us apart from all others. Holiness is living by the precepts of God — ALL of them — even if we don’t understand why. We are not to live inconsistent with our faith. We are to live out our conviction through faith and as though we have already attained the glory of perfection. As born-again saved believers, we are called to a higher standard. We are called to a life of holiness. God says be holy because I AM holy! First Peter 1, Chapter 16 says:
14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance.
15 But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do;
16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
No doubt we are called to be different. No doubt we are called to order our lives aright in accordance with the Living Word of God. But the fact of the matter is we struggle because we are still of the flesh and in the flesh. Even the apostle Paul struggled with his flesh. However,he did not use his struggles as an excuse to willingly commit and continue in the sins he committed. We all would do real well to examine our hearts before it becomes too late… Late is the moment we breathe our last and step across the threshold into eternity. Then it is late…
Here’s what God’s Word says (among all the other things He has to say):
5 For [although] they hold a FORM of piety (true religion), they deny and reject and are strangers to the power of it [their conduct belies the genuineness of their profession]. Avoid [all] such people [turn away from them].
(II Timothy 3:5 AMP – emphasis mine)
Question. For those who refuse to forgive an unfaithful, wayward — or even repentant — spouse and love them back to their spiritual and physical oneness through the pure love and power and mercy of their own Christ-given, blood-bought forgiveness –tell me: how do you think God should handle all of your spiritual harlotries?
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone…
Know this: What you use to measure and judge another by, God will surely use that same measure to mete out your judgment…
Are you and I really in the position to build our own throne?
…think about that…
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