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The human body has many parts. The foot might say, “Because I am not a hand, I am not a part of the body.” But saying this would not stop the foot from being a part of the body. . . . If each part of the body were the same part, there would be no body. But truly God put all the parts, each one of them, in the body as He wanted them. So then there are many parts, but only one body..”
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the foot, “I don’t need you!” No! Those parts of the body that seem to be the weaker are really necessary. . . . . But God put the body together and gave more honor to the parts that need it so our body would not be divided. God wanted the different parts to care the same for each other. If one part of the body suffers, all the other parts suffer with it. Or if one part of our body is honored, all the other parts share its honor.”
Together you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of that body.”
I Corinthians 12:12-27 NCV
We know that Paul is talking about the gifts in the body of Christ and he goes on to explain the order and place of apostles, prophets and teachers. He states that all are not the same as the other within the body but that all have a purpose and a part to make up ONE body.
Look at your own physical body. How many different parts are there that are all different and have different purposes but all the pieces make up one *complete* body!
Now think about this with reference to Marriage. There is a very good analogy seen here with the description of the body of Christ.
Read it again – slowly – and let it sink in. Ask God to open your heart and mind to receive it.
Now go over to Ephesians 5:21-33. Read it with reference to the above passages. It speaks of the Marriage of the two as ONE body – and the two who are ONE together also being ONE with the body of Christ. In those Scriptures Paul seems as though he is talking about the Marriage relationship but then he relates that this is the MYSTERY. The mystery is that the Marriage relationship emulates or is a mirror image of the relationship of Christ to His Church – or the Bridegroom (Christ) to His Bride (the Church). They are ONE body – they are one to all and to each other.
Flip back to Genesis where God states He made the husband and wife one flesh – can also be read “one body.”
The Christian husband and the Christian wife are individually ONE body with Christ. – and they are totally one with each other and the body of Christ. Again, the body of Christ is also known as the Church or the bride of Christ.
God has given an order and a place for everything. While some people and their purposes may seem to be weaker than others within that body, God gives more honor to the parts that need it to keep the body from being divided. God Himself has put the body of Christ together. Is that not so with the husband and wife that He made ONE from the beginning?
How can the husband or wife say to the other that they are not needed? Because the prodigal spouse says so does not mean that it’s true. A part of the body that says to it’s own body – one spouse to the other – that it’s no longer a part of the body doesn’t make it so! No! The body is still the body and we are to care the same for each other!
Can you fathom cutting off a hand or a foot because you say to it you don’t need it anymore? You might say, “Really how dumb is that? Of course I would never say that to my hand or foot much less cut it off! I need them!”
For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church because we are members of His body. FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. . . .” Ephesians 5:29-31 NASB
Well then how can we say this to our beloved Covenant Mate – a part of our own body and the same body that God Himself has put together and made ONE! It’s the same thing. Separating or divorcing yourself from your beloved is like cutting off a hand or foot. Are we not hating our own flesh?
But listen to what GOD says:
The foot might say, ‘Because I’m not a hand, I am not a part of the body.’ But saying this would not stop the foot from being a part of the body. . . .”
How’s that again?
But saying this would not stop [my Covenant Mate] from being a part of [my] body. . . .”
Did you see that? How powerful to realize this for the first time…
A husband or wife that says to their Covenant spouse “I don’t need you; you are no longer a part of my body” can say it all they want, but to say it is to *deny* the Truth of the Scriptures. Just as God put the body of Christ together and made them ONE, He also put the bodies of one husband and one wife together and made them ONE flesh – ONE body together for life.
Who of you reading this cannot make the jump from the Scriptures above to the reality of what we’ve done to try to cut off a part of our body – our Covenant Mate – or even maybe what’s been done to us. . . . .
Listen: God says if one part of your body suffers, the other part will suffer also. He also says if one part is honored, the other part will also be honored. The connection: If you decide to divorce or separate from your Covenant spouse who is a part of you, both of you will suffer. God said so – not me. Why would it suffer? Because it’s ONE body! The better and right thing to do is honor each other in the Lord so that both of you will be honored before Him and then before each other.
The precious good news to the one who has been called to Stand in the Gap for restoration of their Marriage is that GOD says it can’t be done! The body cannot be separated from itself.
God himself joined man and wife together; he has fitted them to be comforts and helps for each other. . . . . Let those who are for putting away their wives (or husbands) consider what would become of themselves, if God should deal with them in like manner. — Matthew Henry Concise Commentary
Therefore, what God has joined together, man must never separate.” Mark 10:9 ISV
If God Himself says it, then I believe it – and that settles it. Frankly, the truth is that settles it whether you or I believe it or not. . . .
Can I get an Amen?
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