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Have you ever heard a sermon, read a Scripture in the Bible – or maybe even a devotional that just really hit you so hard that it made your heart pound and your breathing quicken? Or maybe you didn’t even notice that you were holding your breath while you were listening or reading. “It felt like a fire burning in us when Jesus talked to us. . .” (Luke 24)
That happened to me the other day as I was boxed in behind a dump truck that proclaimed and declared in big green letters on the tail gate “GOD IS WORKING” – this an expedient answer to my heart’s cry as I sped to my exit on an off ramp – at 80mph-ish snapping a picture of the back end of this truck with my cell phone. . . (Yes, I know. . . I repented.) It was a combination of an adrenaline rush and pure excitement borne out of a sense of awe as I was traveling “fast” on my way to work – pouring out my heart to God in serious prayer – being a slight bit miffed about the inconvenience of having to get stuck behind a dump truck that would really slow me down AND realizing that GOD, very GOD, has just spoken to me. . .
Can you imagine the engineering that went into God’s timing to give me an answer that day? A lifetime of engineering went into that one moment in time. Too much you say? Not if you believe in the God of the universe. I do. That means I don’t believe in coincidence or chance – because I know my God Who controls all things does not have chance to contend with. Amen.
So today as I read a devotional I received, it happened again. God spoke. He lit a fire in my heart that caused me to shout out – and my spirit is so “high” that I almost cannot contain my joy!
I am putting that devotional here – copied in its entirety. I know it’s for someone else who will read this. Remember, you’re not reading this by chance. Praise your God.
. . . .and, oh by the way, in thinking about that dump truck – sometimes God has to slow us down in order for us to hear Him. For me, He had to box me in behind a dump truck in morning rush hour traffic to get me to hear what He was saying to me!
GOD IS WORKING
. . .and He’s working for you too.
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Your Lord Is Knocking
“The fear of the Lord is a fountain of life, turning a man from the snares of death.” Proverbs 14:27
Are you ready for your spouse to come home suddenly? Are you praying daily with different scriptures that your spouse’s heart of stone will be touched and changed by the power of the Holy Spirit?
Let me share from my heart some things that I told Bob when he was showing signs of the Holy Spirit moving in his heart.
Often I would see signs of encouragement, and then Bob would pull back and be totally indifferent, often angry and then silent with me. I found out after my stand, that this is all normal for a prodigal spouse “testing the waters” and trying to decide if they will obey the Holy Spirit’s voice and wooing. Never forget that this is a spiritual battle between good and evil, darkness and light, between our Lord God calling them home and Satan who has ensnared your spouse into a trap of lies. Our Lord wants your spouse to turn to Him and remove any and all sins from their heart. Our Lord God is a very patient God, as He does not want any man or woman to perish in Hell. Will you be patient also?
“…So be earnest, and repent. Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.” Revelation 3:19
As you read our Saturday praise reports, you will often hear of a prodigal spouse coming home suddenly with no warning at all or you may see signs of God moving in their heart in different ways. Monday evening we had two praise reports that two men were back home. Yes, the standers both asked for prayer as their husbands were still battling temptations in their mind to leave because of their previous lifestyle.
If you have read any of Bob’s books, this is normal. He woke up the morning after we were married and thought, “What have I done? Can our marriage really be different? Do I want to be home with all the responsibilities instead of living like a single man?” But God had told me ahead of time, that the enemy was not going to give up on Bob easily. I knew that I must continue to pray forever. May I suggest you pray that all ungodly relationships and soul ties be broken and severed forever.
We need to pray that your spouse will “come to [their] senses, repenting to their Heavenly Father.” Pray for that daily. Also, remember when Satan was tempting and deceiving Eve, there was a conversation between them. I believe what your spouse is going through is almost identical. The closer that your spouse goes toward God, you will start to see breakthroughs and strongholds being broken.
“When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.’ So he got up and went to his father. ‘But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.” Luke 15:17-20
You may see your spouse stopping by or calling more frequently. They may help out with a bill. They may call you after your children are in bed to talk to you about their problems. (Praise the Lord!)
You are their one-flesh spouse and their best friend. You need to forgive them every day. This is showing them unconditional love. You want them to talk to you instead of the other person! That other person is not the problem, it is Satan and sin. Are you really ready for them to come home and deal with issues like these? The Holy Spirit is giving you a blessing when they communicate with you. They just do not understand why they are calling you right now!
Your spouse may [say] they want to come home, but then say that they do not want to hurt the other person and that they are never coming home, all in the same sentence. I heard that even the day that Bob and I got remarried.
Stander, know that is deception! Bob was going through a tug of war between the Holy Spirit and the enemy. Visualize the Holy Spirit speaking in one ear and Satan speaking in the other ear.
Your spouse has been brainwashed by Satan. They are worrying about a person that they have had an adulterous affair or an ungodly relationship with, and they do not want to hurt their feelings or leave them stranded with bills. Here you are standing on the other side of the street with their home, you, their spouse, their children and God, the Creator of Heaven and Earth. A child could make this decision! Yet, after they start on the path toward home, they disappear for a few weeks or months or a longer period of time because Satan has deceived them with more lies again, from the Father of lies. (John 8:43-44)
Don’t panic. God is in control.
Your Lord wants the sin removed from their life. You need to stand firm knowing God’s truths about adultery and marriage, standing all the time on the Word and the promises of God. Jesus is and has all the answers for you, your spouse and freedom from all their sins.
“My son, pay attention to my wisdom, listen well to my words of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but she knows it not. Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man’s house. At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent. You will say, ‘How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors. I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly.’ Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well.” Proverbs 5:1-15
I also want to mention other scenarios that you may be dealing with which appears to you as a huge complication that you think is impossible for your Lord. Your spouse married the other person and they may even have a child. How is your marriage ever going to be restored? You may be thinking that you do not know where your spouse is. You may say that you have been standing for (blank) number of years.
You may be thinking, “You have not mentioned my problem. My spouse is a pastor or in ministry. My spouse is addicted to drugs, alcohol, pornography, or living a gay lifestyle. My spouse is home, talking or planning to divorce me and I believe they are involved with someone else. I was the prodigal and my spouse will not forgive me; I have repented and the Lord has touched my heart, yet my spouse will not give me another chance.”
Dear stander, Bob and I have heard it all because Satan does not have any new tricks. It is all about how the enemy is ensnaring your spouse, you or possibly your son or daughter. Remember, I was not perfect. I divorced Bob with anger, bitterness and unforgiveness. God’s plan is for all sin to be removed from both of your hearts. The sooner you and your spouse do this, the sooner your marriage will be restored. This is a spiritual battle between life and death.
What I want to share today is to know in your heart that your battle has been won by your Lord Jesus Christ on the cross at Calvary. He shed His Blood and has paid the price for your spouse to be set free from ANY sin that has ensnared them. It does not matter what the sin is. Jesus Christ can set them free and deliver them from any and all bondages of sin.
“The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a man from the snares of death.” Proverbs 13:14
Do you believe and know this in your heart? Never doubt the Lord’s mighty power! Be ready to speak these truths in love to your spouse when they are going through many trials and tribulations with their job, health or finances. You need to never forget this as a spouse, a parent or a grandparent. Your answer to everything is your Lord Jesus Christ!
“The cords of death entangled me; the torrents of destruction overwhelmed me. The cords of the grave coiled around me; the snares of death confronted me. In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From His temple He heard my voice; my cry came before Him, into His ears.” Psalm 18:4-6
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