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The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. -Psalm 34:18

Since my business trip to DC about a month ago, I have sat to write countless times. I wish I could say it’s a simple case of “writer’s block” but that just isn’t so. No, what my problem is, is discouragement. I’m not going to sit here and tell folks that all is coming up flowers and butterflies here in my tiny Florida paradise. Truth is, I get discouraged just like you do. It bothers me to be like this. I can be “flying high” for a while and then I feel like someone has pulled the rug right out from under me. My question to God in times like these is “Why, God, can I trust You and not doubt in some times and not others?”

The very simple answer is I let myself get discouraged. I get discouraged because I’m tired. I work hard and more often than not, I find myself working long hours. I drive 25 miles home, take care of our two pets and spend the rest of the evening getting ready for the next day. Then I get up and go full speed again.

A life like that – all work and no play coupled with the circumstances that surround us – will wear us out to the point of fatigue. Fatigue makes EVERYTHING look bad. Does that sound like you?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not about to give up my Stand. There’s way too much at stake. I love my Husband with an everlasting Love and I am determined to see him confessing Jesus as his Savior and Lord. BUT!! I also Love the God Who saved me and called ME according to HIS purpose for my life. If you’ve ever wondered at your purpose in life, I can tell you that you’ve arrived at it. You were called to Stand for the eternal destiny of your Covenant Mate.

Remember this: If we walk away from Standing because it looks as though nothing is happening, it’s not because God forgot about us and walked away — it was because we weren’t willing to wait on God. Standing isn’t just about a restored Marriage – it’s about salvation. Restoration of your Marriage is SECONDARY to the restoration of your personal relationship to Jesus Christ. Amen.

I’m sharing with you another timely devotional that I received this morning from a site I frequent – Rejoice Marriage Ministries (RMM); a site for Standers. I’m sure there is something in it for you so I’ve copied it for you here. After all, isn’t that what God wants us to do – to comfort those with the same comfort with which we ourselves have received?

The gentleman who wrote this piece (Dennis Wingfield, also a former Stander) is filling in for one of the founding members of RMM. The Husband founder is currently in the hospital and recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He is a former Prodigal Husband who heeded the call of God on his life to return home to his Standing wife. He’s a godly man and a gifted writer. Pray for him and his wife Charlyne and their family.

God’s blessings and the Peace of Jesus Christ be on you all.



In the midst of family turmoil, it is easy to become tired and discouraged. Vince Lombardi, the famous coach of the Green Bay Packers, once said, “Fatigue makes cowards of us all.” It is very important during this time to take good care of oneself by eating healthy foods, exercising, getting plenty of rest and avoiding fatty snacks and an overabundance of caffeine. Part of staying fit is to include scripture reading and prayer in your daily routine to ensure that your spiritual life is also in top notch shape.

“Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me…?” Psalm 42:5

In spite of our best efforts to avoid it, fatigue and discouragement are inevitable in the midst of separation and divorce. Emotional stress is far more draining than hard physical labor. What do you do during times of fatigue which lead to discouragement and the feeling of hopelessness? Where do you seek refuge from the battle for your home?

“On that day, it shall be said to Jerusalem: Fear not, O Zion, be not discouraged! The Lord, your God, is in your midst, a mighty savior; he will rejoice over you with gladness, and renew you in his love, he will sing joyfully because of you, as one sings at festivals. I will remove disaster from among you, so that none may recount your disgrace.” Zephaniah 3:16-18 (NAB)

What an awesome promise from God! In the midst of your trial, God promises to renew you in His love. God rejoices over you, for your worth to Him is beyond compare. God promises to remove disaster from your life and put the disgrace of your trial behind you. Do not let the daunting task of healing your marriage discourage you, for God is with you, strengthening and encouraging you to continue the fight.

“Meanwhile, the people in Judah said, ‘The strength of the laborers is giving out, and there is so much rubble that we cannot build the wall.’ After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, ‘Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.'” Nehemiah 4:10, 14

Standing for the healing of a broken marriage is tiring and fraught with hard work. The task often seems impossible and it is easy to become discouraged. The only sure cure for fatigue and discouragement is to focus on God’s purpose in all of this and not on your circumstances. God desires for your marriage to be healed. He wants to heal the emotional hurts you and your spouse have experienced. If you are overwhelmed by the task of standing for the healing of your marriage, remember God’s purpose for your life and your marriage. God created husband and wife for the purpose of assisting each other in their growth in holiness. Your task is to assist your spouse on their journey to heaven, as is their task for you. Cooperate with God’s plan; keep your eyes on the goal, the restoration of your marriage. God’s plan for you and your spouse will not be thwarted.

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding. And he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times will have reached their fulfillment–to bring all things in heaven and on earth together under one head, even Christ. In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:3, 7-12

Christ came to earth so that all people will have redemption through His blood sacrificed on the cross. God’s plan is to bring all things in heaven and on earth together under the lordship of Christ. Do not lose sight of His plan. His greatest desire and purpose is to bring salvation to your home. He sent His Son to earth to die for the forgiveness of your sins and the sins of your spouse. He suffered for all mankind and was nailed to a cross, accepting the punishment that we deserve. Do you think for a minute that God would give up on anyone after suffering such a horrible death? Do not lose hope. God’s love for you and your spouse can overcome the greatest of difficulties. In the midst of the current chaos in your home, rest in this truth: Jesus is Lord and God is in control!

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10

Discouragement is not of God, but comes directly from Satan. If he can cause you to be discouraged and give up, his work is finished. Do not give in to the temptation. Look to Jesus when discouragement comes upon you. Jesus came to give you life, abundant life! God’s purpose to save you, your spouse and your family cannot be thwarted, no matter what evil Satan may attempt to bring against you. Satan has been defeated by the blood of Jesus. He cannot win the battle without your cooperation. Discouragement is the weapon he uses against you. Keep your eyes on the cross, set your face like flint and do not waver from the path. Victory is yours if you do not give up!

“But the plans of the Lord stand firm forever, the purposes of his heart through all generations.” Psalm 33:11

“But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” 1 Corinthians 15:57-58

I am lifting prayers to heaven on your behalf, as a fragrant offering pleasing to God, for the healing of your marriage.

Standing with you,
Dennis Wingfield
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.

Now don’t you feel better already? Dear Stander, let us keep our eyes on the Author and Perfecter of our faith – Jesus Christ.