My name is Celia and I own and write for TheEphesianMarriage. On November 13, 2006, I did the unthinkable — I told a Judge in a Court of Law that I thought my precious Marriage was irreconciliable. I made that awful statement under complete duress and stress. I was broken and so blind. So lost. I loved my Husband but I didn’t know what else to do. We were both so filled with anger and bitterness toward one another — and to this day, I cannot tell you why.
I know your hopelessness. I know your fear. I know your anger. I know your soul.
I know who you are because I am you.
But God!
By God’s Mercy, He called me back from the depths of a self-destruction so total that I shudder to even speak of it. I have been humbled by His powerful Love. His Forgiveness is so complete that in a moment’s time, I understood. It’s that same all-encompassing and unconditional Forgiveness that I have come to give to my forever love — my Husband. But more than that, it’s Love Himself Who is calling my Husband back to Him with that same unconditional Forgiveness.
This is my living testimony. I am a Prodigal-turned-Stander who is Standing in the Gap for the reconciliation of my One-Flesh-Covenant Marriage. My purpose in writing is two-fold: it actually is a calling — but it helps me work my way through the wilderness I am walking through; and I am writing to let you know that no matter what, some how, some way the God Who calls you IS Faithful. He cannot and will not let you go. He loves you with an infinite and unconditional Mercy and Grace and He cares about your every need. He tells us to comfort others with the comfort we ourselves have received. He has sent me to help open the eyes of the blind and set the captives free by speaking His Word. I’m giving you what I have been given. And one day soon I will know the reality of this desire God has placed within me — and our lives and Covenant Marriage will be a testimony to our two children and our families. But above all, the restoration of this home will be to and for HIS Glory.
You are here because you are among the called out ones. God is speaking to you loud and very clear. He has called you to die to your rights to yourself daily; to lay down your life for the eternal life of your prodigal Husband or Wife. He has called you to take up your cross and follow Him. To be holy because He is Holy. Yours may be a long journey or a short one. But you will know that it is God Who has called you by name because the desire He has placed within you will not let you rest. By the power of the Holy Spirit and through the Blood of His Son, you are His witness and the instrument He will use to bring sanctification and healing to your home — because you are His.
Remember: The gifts and calling of God are irrevocable (Romans 11:29). May God Bless these pages to the nourishment of your wounded spirit and may God give you the desires of HIS heart.
Amen.
TheEphesianMarriage Blog 
Hello, It looks like your web site has expired. I hope you aren’t going to stop writing, I have followed your notes for the past few years and have found strength in your message and God’s word. I am standing…
I did notice above that you mention Facebook. Do you have an Ephesian’s Marriage page on Facebook? God Bless!
I did not realize my site had expired! I will see what i can do to fix it. Thank you for letting me know. And thank you for letting me know you have been encouraged. It touches my heart to know that somewhere i am making a difference. Good bless and keep you. Always.
Hello, I had a question on the subject of marriage and divorce. It’s personal for me, so would it be possible to communicate through email?
Hi Jennifer! You sure can! I sent you a msg on fb.
Hello, I have been married 30 years this Oct..We have 9 children, most have grown and live all over the world..I call them my garden, they carry Jesus with them where ever they go…Surly I have been blessed..One day a friend of ours happened to be at a party my sister was giving for her son, and she came and sat at the table my husband and I sat at ..now her and her husband were our friends from school age..her and her husband were having problems, she looked at us and said what a blessing you are, and right after she looked at my husband and asked him toi leave the kids and I and be with her, well we thought it was a joke, a horrid one none the less…a less than a year later he was gone, yes with her..it has been 6 years, but my Father in heaven says, never leave a man behind..no greater love has a person than that they lay down their life for their brother..my husband is my brother, he has been taken captive…I have seen him in the enemies camp, dreams given by our Heavenly Father..I know that He is working on my Husbands heart, I seen myself waiting in the lobby I was fiddling with my wedding ring, I was nervous..while my husband was in heart surgery, I tried to get in the room but I was denied, it was important that I stay in the waiting room…before I woke from the dream, I realized that Jesus was the Doctor, and my waiting was the stake in my marriage..so to all you who can not see the Hand of God..know beyond a shadow of doubt that he does not need our eyes to perform His miracle..the story of the centurion.. He was not far from the house when the centurion sent friends to say to him: “Lord, don’t trouble yourself, for I do not deserve to have you come under my roof. That is why I did not even consider myself worthy to come to you. But say the word, and my servant will be healed. For I myself am a man under authority, with soldiers under me. I tell this one, ‘Go,’ and he goes; and that one, ‘Come,’ and he comes. I say to my servant, ‘Do this,’ and he does it.”
When Jesus heard this, he was amazed at him, and turning to the crowd following him, he said, “I tell you, I have not found such great faith even in Israel.” Then the men who had been sent returned to the house and found the servant well. Jesus goes before us..In Him alone I place my trust, It use to be my husband I trusted in…But salvation belongs solely to the Lord..God Bless
Sister Bonita
A beautiful example of true faith. Such faith is to be rewarded in His time for truly salvation is only of the Lord our God. God bless you and keep you and your family always in the palm of His Loving and Merciful Hands. Amen.
-TheEphesianMarriage
Thank you for everything you’ve written. My husband has walked out after 20 years for another woman, moved to another state and has no contact with me. He’s made it clear that he’s planning on filing for divorce as soon as he meets residency requirements & marrying her. I’ve made the decision to stand because that’s what I feel God is directing me to do, but most people think I’m crazy. Thanks for letting me know I’m not the only fighting this battle!
Dear Autumn – I can’t imagine not having contact with my husband. And I can’t imagine how that must hurt your heart. I am just now praying that God give you a sign that He is working on your behalf and also your husbands. The hardest part is not being able to see the hand of God at work. My Mother has told me, when you cant see the hand of God, trust His heart. You trust God and give Him the room to work in your husband’s heart. I promise you He will. I dont know how and I dont know when, but He will. And you are not crazy so don’t even entertain that thought. The devil would love nothing more than to get you to think that. Don’t give him the sacred ground of your heart and mind. Hold on to God with all you’ve got. And by the way…. I found I had to separate myself from the people who tried desperately to separate me from thw stand God called me to. But if I couldn’t (like if those people are family), I let them know firmly and politely that the topic was off limits. Establish your boundaries and move forward with the call of God on your life. Focus on God – not what your husband is doing – or it will drive you crazy. The devil will see to that. God bless you and keep you and may He give you the desires of his heart – and yours.
Did a search for prayers and came across your site. To God be the glory for all He has done in your life and all He is doing. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. The encouragement and strength that you have shown is needed and appreciated. I pray that God has answered your prayers both spoken and unspoken and that He is covering you and your husband and your children. God bless you and I cover you all with the precious blood of Jesus. Again, thank you for your time and sharing. It has been a blessing.
EatPrayLove… I like that. 🙂 And thank you. You know, when I look at myself I can’t see the changes I would like to see but then we can be so cruel to ourselves. We are our own worst enemy at times. But I pray that what is presented here glorifies Him. But like His Word says, He Who began a good work in you is faithful and just to complete it. And I believe that because He says it is so – whether I see it or not. So thank you for reminding of that. And thank you for blessing me with your prayer and encouragement. I too pray the same for you. May God cover you, bless and keep you, and protect you and your spouse. And may He show you this day how much He loves you. And may He grant you the desires of His heart. And yours. In His Name…
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I am so pleased that you are back. Recently my wife of 40 years walked out and filed for a divorce without any discussion. I was devastated. I believe God led me to your blog. I did not know about standing until I arrived here. What a blessing it has been. Now I understand my purpose in life. You truly are comforting others. Thank you and may God continue to bless you.
Today I’ve been fasting and praying for God to show me His will and what steps He wants me to follow or do. I came accross your website; I’m so encouraged and blessed. I appreciate and thank you for your work of love and I pray that your prayers be answered according to His will.
Hi Monica ~
I feel awful for not getting back to you sooner. My most sincere apologies for that. I’ve been away from my blog for several months. The only excuse I can offer is work, work and more work. I know that God has heard the cry of your heart and I’m positive that He has shown you His will for your life — and the life of your husband. This also involves the eternal destiny for both of you — and those around you who are watching you. Sometimes God calls us into the fire — not out of anger but rather to purify us; to make us better — Holy… But always for His purposes and His glory. God has a plan for you as he does me. Walk in the knowledge and confidence that He IS in control and He will never leave you nor forsake you. He loves you both and cares about every individual detail of your life. You are blessed because you believe what the Lord has said to you will come to pass. He alone is able. Believe it and allow nothing to steal that from you. — Thank you for responding. Thank you for letting me know you have been blessed by what you’ve read here. To God be the glory forever and ever. I guess I need to get back in the saddle and start writing again. I’ve been horribly unfaithful that way… God bless and keep you always in His very loving and capable hands.
Beautiful. Your transparency is appreciated! I am expecting a healing and reconciliation. I know God’s heart is to heal my marriage. Thank you Lord.
Hi Still an Army Wife –
First of all, Thank You for doing what you do. I can appreciate being a Dependent Wife. I also know what being a Brat is all about. It’s in my blood and Army is my roots. It’s not easy to be a Dependent Wife if you’ve never first been a Brat… Either way, you learn it. And I am so very thankful for your Husband’s service to our country. I pray God’s special protection on your Husband. Secondly, thank you again for your comments. I just got on here after being away for a while and found your note. I appreciate you stopping by and leaving a positive note. It helps me too. Though I can’t see you and though I don’t know you, I know you are real and it gives me strength. We find we are not alone in our circumstances. — Heavenly Father, thank You for this woman who walks after your call on her life in faith and obedience – no matter what. Give her strength and encouragement in her walk with You. Continue to fill her with Your Love, Mercy and Grace and bring her Prodigal Husband to acknowledge You as Lord – and bring him back home to the arms of his Covenant Wife. In Jesus Name we ask it. Amen. — Thank you. TheEphesianMarriage