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Most of you have probably heard the saying: “Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.”
I say to you that if I be your friend because I lie to you or smooth over the Truth — which is essentially the same as a lie; then make me your enemy. For the sake of Jesus Christ, make me your enemy and not your Savior and LORD.
Since I posted The Chosen, this blog has lost two followers. While this blog has never been about the numbers, I have to tell you my heart sank when I saw that. For them! Their hearts were too wounded to hear — or for whatever reason, they were unable to bear the Truth of GOD’s Word. I have asked GOD for them, not for my sake, but for theirs. Isn’t this what we want? For GOD to call their name — whoever “they” are — so that they may come to the knowledge of salvation in Christ? To come to the knowledge of His perfect saving grace? I agonized over posting The Chosen for nearly two weeks — including the time it took to write it — because I know that not many can bear up under it. But for those who can, they need it. People can put anything they want on the Internet, but when writing about something such as this, the responsibility is great; the eternal burden weighs heavy — for I am, in effect, teaching GOD’s Word. No matter the forum, that is what it is.
10 For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.
11 But I make known to you, brethren, that the gospel which was preached by me is not according to man.
12 For I neither received it from man, nor was I taught it, but it came through the revelation of Jesus Christ.
Galatians 1:10-12 NKJV
I am not the Apostle Paul — but there is no doubt in my mind that, like Paul, God definitely revealed the Truth of HIS Word to my searching heart. I identify with Paul more than any other… Except maybe Peter in my denial of Christ by my prodigal actions. The Book of Romans is my favorite book. Next to my sweet LORD, I want to meet Paul. But keep Eve away. For the obvious reasons, I would like to smack her — but I’ll save that for another time. Maybe.
But the sort-of-joking about Eve aside… Paul (like Christ) was a staunch preacher of Truth. He was not out to win a popularity contest. He did not mix words. He called a spade, a spade. There is no mistaking the Truth of the Gospel of Christ when Paul speaks. He does not play mind games and he doesn’t smooth out the bumps. I cannot stand mind games and I cannot stand liars — probably because this is who I was before I walked out on my Marriage of 25 years. When GOD grabs you by the scruff of the neck and reveals your sin to you, it is that sin — in its entirety — that you come to loath. And because of that, I will tell the Truth. You may not like the delivery, but if you can get past that to the Truth, then you are on your way to seeing what GOD has for you. –>I will hold your hand and cry with you — but I will look you in the eye and tell you the hard Truth. That’s why I identify with Paul.
I do not write to please men. But GOD commands all of us to speak His Truth — not ours. Christ spoke the Truth and He was crucified. But you must understand, all of that was predetermined in eternity past. It was GOD Who chose to crucify His only begotten Son so that those whom He would call could have eternal life. The misguided like to blame the crucifixion of Christ on the Jews or the Romans — but especially the Jews. No. They were only the vessels GOD chose to use. Make no mistake: it was GOD Who had His precious Son crucified. For those who are the predestined; the called; the justified; the glorified.
Let me ask you a question. Why would GOD subject His only Son to such brutal torture if man had the choice to reject the offer of His free gift of salvation? Especially knowing that no man was capable of choosing His Son? It is inconceivable that GOD would take such a course knowing that dying for no one is meaningless. I submit to you, by the Word of GOD, that Christ was crucified not for the sins of the whole of the entire human race, but He was crucified only for those whom GOD has predestined. . . .
20 He was foreknown before the foundation of the world but was made manifest in the last times for the sake of you
21 who through him are believers in God, . . . .
1 Peter 1:20-21 ESV
23 . . . . this Jesus, delivered up according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God, you crucified and killed by the hands of lawless men.
Acts 2:23 ESV
If GOD can foreordain the death of His only Son, it should stand out in our hearts that He can also foreordain those whom He would give His Son’s life blood for. As GOD chose Judas to betray His Son; as GOD chose those in the Sanhedrin at the time of Christ being delivered over; as GOD chose Pontius Pilate to be the man to deliver up His Son to be crucified; as GOD chose those who would mock Christ, spit in His face, drive the spikes through His hands and feet; GOD in HIS Sovereignty can choose to have mercy on whom He wills. Every single name you see appear in Holy Writ is a person chosen by GOD’s Sovereign will to accomplish His purpose. The good — and yes, even the evil. We need not look any further than the crucifixion of GOD’s Son to see the greatest foreordained evil planned by GOD. . . . And it was because of this evil that those who would believe are the called. And I said evil — not sin. There is a difference. GOD cannot sin because sin is a transgression of GOD’s holy law. (cf I John 3:4)
7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things. –Isaiah 45:7 KJV
16 “Behold, I have created the blacksmith who blows the coals in the fire, who brings forth an instrument for his work; and I have created the spoiler to destroy. –Isaiah 54:16 NKJV
6 If a trumpet is blown in a city, will not the people be afraid? If there is calamity in a city, will not the Lord have done it? –Amos 3:6 NKJV
I agree . . . . these are hard sayings in the Bible. But they belong to GOD, not man. And in HIS love and mercy, HE foreordained it all. Actually, with every single thing you are going through right now in your stand, this should comfort us! This means that GOD in His Sovereign mercy holds every detail in our lives — so we can know according to Romans 8:28 “. . . . that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” And in my heart, I want to believe that this includes the calling of our prodigals to a right relationship with Him, first; and then a restored right relationship to those who wait for them to come home.
Beloved Standers — I am not here to tamper with the Word of GOD to make it more pleasing and palatable so it will be less uncomfortable. Neither am I here to argue semantics. I am only here because He has allowed it. I am so very sorry if I have caused any of you to hurt. But I cannot apologize for the Truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes, . . . . –Romans 1:16 NKJV
I refuse to be the friend who whispers lies in your ear.
For Christ’s sake — and yours — make me your enemy that you may hear the Truth.
In HIS Service and for HIS Glory. . . .